{"id":1877,"date":"2011-06-13T14:42:18","date_gmt":"2011-06-13T18:42:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/shieldsgroup.com\/?p=1877"},"modified":"2011-06-13T14:44:41","modified_gmt":"2011-06-13T18:44:41","slug":"how-do-i-stop-being-so-cynical","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shieldsgroup.com\/blog\/2011\/06\/13\/how-do-i-stop-being-so-cynical\/","title":{"rendered":"How do I stop being so cynical?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>So recently I heard that Phil died. <\/strong>You didn\u2019t know Phil, but I did. He was a pretender.<\/p>\n<p>Phil came to church and pretended to be interested in order to get  his wife to be a little friendlier with him. The only time Phil prayed  was when the Pastor came to visit. He\u2019d have the whole family hold hands  at the table and pray together. Occasionally Phil would round up the  clan and tell the he wanted them to be in church every Sunday. That  lasted about a week. I say that Phil was a pretender because he was.  Even those times he\u2019d spend Sunday morning in church, Phil spent  Saturday evening getting drunk. Phil had his picture in the paper for  dealing drugs. And frequently, Phil\u2019s wife would talk about his cheating  and trashing the house if she objected.<\/p>\n<p><strong>So when Phil died and I read his obituary, <\/strong>I wanted  to throw up. It said that Phil had led a life of great faith in God,  that he loved God and served Him. I have to say that when I read things  like that, it feeds something within me that is not healthy. It feeds my  cynicism.<\/p>\n<p>I struggle with cynicism. I\u2019m not just a pessimist. A pessimist has a  tendency to always expect the worst. Not just a skeptic. A skeptic has  trouble believing anything good. I struggle with cynicism.<\/p>\n<p><strong>A cynic believes all people are motivated by selfishness. <\/strong>The  outlook of a cynic is generally scornful and negative. Even if someone  comes to faith in Christ and has changed, the cynic still struggles to  believe it\u2019s real. It\u2019s not a good thing to be a cynic.<\/p>\n<p><strong>This podcast addresses the pitfall of cynicism and gives you some ladder rungs to climb to break free.<\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"powerpress_player\" id=\"powerpress_player_3347\"><audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-1877-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"http:\/\/www.shieldsgroup.com\/mp3s\/amq\/2011\/pitfalls\/20110612Pitfall11Cynicism.mp3?_=1\" \/><a href=\"http:\/\/www.shieldsgroup.com\/mp3s\/amq\/2011\/pitfalls\/20110612Pitfall11Cynicism.mp3\">http:\/\/www.shieldsgroup.com\/mp3s\/amq\/2011\/pitfalls\/20110612Pitfall11Cynicism.mp3<\/a><\/audio><\/div><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_links_mp3\" style=\"margin-bottom: 1px !important;\">Podcast: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.shieldsgroup.com\/mp3s\/amq\/2011\/pitfalls\/20110612Pitfall11Cynicism.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_pinw\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Play in new window\" onclick=\"return powerpress_pinw('https:\/\/www.shieldsgroup.com\/blog\/?powerpress_pinw=1877-podcast');\" rel=\"nofollow\">Play in new window<\/a> | <a href=\"http:\/\/www.shieldsgroup.com\/mp3s\/amq\/2011\/pitfalls\/20110612Pitfall11Cynicism.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_d\" title=\"Download\" rel=\"nofollow\" download=\"20110612Pitfall11Cynicism.mp3\">Download<\/a><\/p><!--powerpress_player-->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So recently I heard that Phil died. 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